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Does Your Child Have The Four Crucial C’s?

Hi this is Terri Borman, childcare provider and author of “Shapes Go to School.”   This book teaches children about shapes, colors and diversity.  It helps children to understand that everyone is different.  This week’s blog is about teaching young children the four crucial C’s.  By around age five the personality of a child is set so it is crucial the child understands the four C’s in the early years.  Children who have all the four C’s are caring, cooperative, considerate and creative.  Does your child have the four crucial C’s?

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“I need to believe I have a place I belong.”

Children need to feel like they are connected and have value or else insecurity will set in.  Here are some things we can do to help children feel connected.

1.)   Show interest in each child and find out about their hobbies.

2.)   Give positive attention to each child.

3.)   Find and recognize strengths and talents of each child.

4.)   Show acceptance of each child.

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“I need to believe I can do it.”

Children need to believe in themselves or else inadequacy will set in and the power struggle will begin.  They need to be encouraged to be self-reliant at every opportunity.  Here are some things we can do to help children feel capable.

1.)  Once a child has learned a new skill, allow them to keep doing it for themselves.

2.)  Make a child’s mistake become a learning experience by demonstrating the correct way.

3.)  Build a child’s confidence by believing in them and focusing on the improvement not the imperfection.

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“I need to believe I can make a difference.”

Children need to believe they contribute and have value or else they may see themselves as being insignificant and feel the need for revenge.  Here are some things we can do to make children feel like they count.

1.)  Promote contribution by allowing the children to do a job every day that aides in the day to day activities and let them have an input in the scheduling and the activities for the day.

2.)  Provide recognition by sending them a note about what you noticed and appreciated about them that day.

3.)  Hold a meeting and let each child have a say about their likes and dislikes.

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“I need to believe I can handle what comes.”

Children need to believe they can handle whatever situation arises or else they can feel a sense of hopelessness and give up.  Children with courage will learn more quickly because they will persevere and not give up.  Here are some things we can do to nurture courage in children.

1.)  Become expertly trained in the skill of encouragement, meaning always encourage every child every day.

2.)  Always focus on the effort and the improvement.

3.)  Replace the traditional competitive style approaches with cooperative ones.  It’s not always a race to the finish.

The Crucial Cs and Rudolf Dreikurs’ Short-Range Goals of Misbehavior

Amy Lew and Betty Lou Bettner

 Child’s belief  Child feels Child’s negative goal  Adult feels  Adult’s impulse Child’s response to correction
I only count when I’m being noticed insecurealienated ATTENTION irritated annoyed REMINDWhat, again? “temporarily” stops
My strength is in showing you that you can’t make me and you can’t stop me. inadequate,dependent others arein control POWER angrychallenged FIGHTI insist that you do as I say. misbehavior intensifies
I knew you were against me. No one really likes me. I’ll show you how it feels. insignificant REVENGEget backget even hurt or wants to punish PUNISHHow could you do this to me? us? them?
I’ll teach you a lesson.
wants to get even,makes self disliked
I can’t do anything right so I won’t try. If I don’t try, my failures won’t be so obvious. inferioruselesshopeless AVOIDANCE display of inadequacy despairI give up.hopeless GIVE UP It’s no use. passive,no change,more hopeless,displaysinadequacy

Remember: Misbehavior is a symptom of the child’s discouragement at not having the Crucial Cs. Use encouragement and training through natural and logical consequences. Consider and agree on choices together.

Crucial Cs Constructive Alternatives Child’s belief Child feels Child’s positive goal
CONNECT Replace negative attention with positive attention.   Plan activities together. Don’t ignore the child; ignore the misbehavior.   Teach self-sufficiency. I belong. secure  COOPERATION
 CAPABLE Don’t try to win. Give opportunity and choices so child can display power constructively.Maintain friendly attitude. I can do it. competentself-control SELF-RELIANCE
 COUNT Avoid anger and hurt feelings. Maintain, appreciation in relationship. Offer chances to help. Seek support and help in identifying positives.(Don’t give up.) I matter. I can make a difference. significant valuable CONTRIBUTION
 COURAGE Notice only strengths and ignore the negative. Set up steady exposure to manageable tasks that have a guarantee of success.No criticism. I can handle what comes. hopefulwilling to try RESILIENCY

Copyright © 1995 Amy Lew and Betty Lou Bettner. The authors grant permission to copy this chart for educational purposes only, provided that the authors are cited.

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Resources:

I attended a child care training provided by the Tarrant County Professional Home Child Care Association April 9, 2014.  The trainer, Tiffany Tepper, LCSW, spoke to us about guiding children’s behaviors and the four crucial C’s.  She listed her resource as “A Parent’s Guide to Understanding and Motivating Children.” 

After further research, I found that the crucial C’s may have evolved from Alfred Adler’s theories.  Alford Adler founded the Society of Individual Psychology in 1912 and his theories have played an essential role in a number of areas including child development.

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Try This Free Activity Worksheet From Shapes Go to School

Hi everyone this is Terri Borman author of Shapes Go to School and a child care provider.  I hope you enjoyed last weeks activity worksheet which let your children color all the shapes that are in the book “Shapes Go to School.”

This week I have made you another activity worksheet called Shapes Go to School Activity Worksheet Squares.  This worksheet will let your children trace the squares and then color them blue.

Remember you have to hold the control button and then click on the link below.  It will then pop up a tab at the top of your browser.  Click on the tab at the top of your browser to see and print the new activity worksheet.

As always be blessed and have a great week!

Terri Borman

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Shapes Go to School Activity Worksheet Squares

What Readers Will Take Away From Children’s Book “Shapes Go to School”

00B0B_dGlSBFfHl9M_600x450 “Shapes Go to School” is a fun and educational book for young children.  The very cute shape children from “Shapes Go to School” are going to elementary school for their first time.   Some of the shape children are excited to go to school while some are sad and scared.

Their teacher, Miss Heart, has asked each child to come up and introduce themselves.  One by one the shape children come up and introduce themselves and tell the readers the name of their shape.  They also tell the readers how many sides they have and what colors they are.  Readers will learn about ten shapes and colors.

One of the shape children, Circle, is sad and scared.  He feels like he doesn’t fit in because he is different.  He doesn’t have any sides like the other shape children because he is a round shape.  Miss Heart and Star comfort and encourage Circle.  In the end, Circle realizes that his teacher and friends are right.  He is special and useful just the way he is!

Overall here is what readers will take away from “Shapes Go to School.”  Readers will learn about ten basic shapes and colors.  They will learn about diversity because all the shape children are different shapes, sizes, and colors just like other boys and girls.   Most importantly readers will learn about having a positive self-esteem and realize that they are special and useful just the way they are!