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Help Children Understand Bullying

It’s back to school time here in the United States and parents, caregivers, and school staff each have a role to play in the prevention of bullying.  Children need to understand bullying so they know how to stand up to it safely or when to go get help.  They need to have an open line of communication with their parents so they can get advice about bullying, and they need people modeling for them how others should be treated.

Help Children Understand Bullying.  Children who know about bullying can talk about it if it happens to them or to someone else.  Encourage children to report bullying when it happens and give them advice on how to stand up to a bully by confidently saying, “stop.”  Teach children strategies of what to do if saying, “stop” doesn’t work, such as walk away, stay with friends, or to go near other adults.  Urge children who see someone being bullied to get help.

Keep the Lines of Communication Open.  Children often look to parents for advice with life’s drama.  Here are some great conversation starters:

  • What was a good thing that happened at school today?
  • Did anything bad happen?
  • What is lunch time like?
  • Who do you sit with at lunch time?
  • What do you talk about?
  • What is it like to ride the school bus?
  • What’s your favorite subject?
  • What do you like best about yourself?

Start conversations about bullying with questions like these:

  • What does “bullying” mean to you?
  • What are kids who bully like?
  • Why do you think people bully?
  • Who are the adults you trust when it comes to things like bullying?
  • Have you ever felt scared to go to school because of bullying?
  • What things have you tried to change?
  • What do you think parents can do to help stop bullying?
  • Have you or your friends left other kids out on purpose?  Do you think that was bullying?
  • What do you usually do when you see bullying going on?
  • Do you ever see kids at your school being bullied by other kids?
  • How does it make you feel?
  • Have you ever tried to help someone who is being bullied? What happened? What would you do if it happens again?

Model How to Treat Others.  By treating others with kindness and respect, adults show the children in and around their lives that there is no need for bullying.  The children are watching, even when you think they are not, how adults manage stress, friendships, co-workers, and families.

Encourage Children to Take Part in After School Activities.   These activities, such as sports, choir, youth groups, or school clubs give children a chance to have fun and meet others with the same interests.  They can build relationships and confidence which helps protect them from bullying.

Hi this is Terri Borman childcare specialist and author of Shapes Go to School.  While having fun reading my book, not only will children learn to recognize shapes they can learn everything in between such as colors, counting, and even diversity.  I would like to spot light one of the characters from my book IMAG0216named Hexagon.  Looking bullyish, Hexagon is angry because he doesn’t like it when people call him names.  To purchase Shapes Go to School click on this link http://www.amazon.com/author/terriborman or click on the picture of Hexagon.

 

For More Information:

http://www.stopbullying.gov/prevention/talking-about-it/index.html

B.E. S.A.F.E.

heat kills2  Once a child’s body temperature reaches 107 degrees Fahrenheit, brain damage or death can occur.  This medical emergency is called heat stroke and so far this year, 2014, there have been at least seventeen heat stroke deaths of children left inside vehicles.  Even on days with relatively mild 60 degree Fahrenheit temperatures vehicles can reach deadly temperatures.  Hi this is Terri Borman child care provider and author of children’s book “Shapes Go to School” and I would like to share KidsAndCars.org’s recommendations for these following B.E. S.A.F.E. tips.

B is for back seat- Put something in the back seat so you have to open the door when leaving the vehicle such as a cell phone, employee badge, handbag, etc. especially do this if you are not the usual caregiver dropping off the child at day care.  The number one reason for these deaths are from caregivers forgetting to get the child out of the car.

E is for Every Child- Every child should be correctly restrained in the back seat.

S is for Stuffed Animal- Move a stuffed animal from the car seat to the front seat to remind you when your baby is in the back seat.

A is for Ask- Ask your child-care provider to call you within 10 minutes if your child hasn’t arrived on time.

F is for Focus- Focus on driving don’t get distracted by a telephone call.

E is for Every Time You Park- Every time you park your vehicle open the back door to make sure no one has been left behind and lock your doors to stop your children from sneaking back in to play later.  The number two reason for these deaths are from children getting into cars to play without their parents knowledge and then the child is not able to get back out.

Day care buses are now coming equipped with safety equipment which requires the driver to go to the back of the bus to disengage an alarm in hopes that he/she will check each seat as they go.  Unfortunately, this safety step can be bypassed if the driver has a passenger (child) disengage it for them.

Security personnel, parking lot attendants and the general public should look for children alone in a vehicle and call 911 immediately.  If the child seems hot or sick, they should get them out of the vehicle as quickly as possible.

Here are some statistics:

  • Total number of U.S. heatstroke deaths of children left in cars, 2014:  17
  • Total number of U.S. heatstroke deaths of children left in cars, 2013:  44
  • Total number of U.S. heatstroke  deaths of children left in cars, 1998-present:  623
  • Average number of U.S. child heatstroke fatalities per year since 1998:38
  • See Monthly Statistics
  • See Per Capita Deaths by State
  • Circumstances
    • An examination of media reports about the 606 child vehicular heatstroke deaths for an fourteen year period (1998 through 2013) shows the following circumstances:
      • 51% – child “forgotten” by caregiver (312 Children)
      • 29% – child playing in unattended vehicle (177)
      • 18% – child intentionally left in vehicle by adult  (111)
      • 1% – circumstances unknown (6)
    • Demographics of Persons Responsible for Heatstroke Deaths of Children Forgotten in Vehicles

http://www.kidsandcars.org/kidsandcars-org-warns-against-leaving-children-in-hot-vehicles.html

http://ggweather.com/heat/

True Stories  http://www.weather.com/news/tragic-summer-children-left-hot-vehicles-20140710

cropped-9781481758178.jpg  Click here to order your personally signed copy!

ForgetMeNotBrochure  http://mtcbiz.net/forget_me_not_alarm.html

 

 

 

Children Do Not Come With Instruction Manuals

00B0B_dGlSBFfHl9M_600x450Hi this is Terri Borman child care provider and author of children’s book, “Shapes Go to School.”  It’s the first day of school for the shape children and the teacher, Miss Heart, has asked the students to get up and introduce themselves.  One by one the shape children get up and tell each other their names, their color, and how many sides they have.  It’s a beautifully illustrated book that the children love and they learn all about shapes and colors. To purchase your copy of “Shapes Go to School” click on the picture of the book.

IMG_215388605791630(1)My newest nephew, Samuel, was born this past week.  His birth made me think about how fast my own children are growing up.  Children don’t come with an instruction manual, so we as parents need to make sure we give our children our unconditional love and support,  instill in them our values and beliefs, and show them where we made wrong turns in life so they don’t make the same ones.  We can also take advice and learn from other parents, doctors, teachers and child care providers.  Here are ten child raising tips for you to ponder upon:

1.)  Raise a Godly child.  Teach your children about your bible and beliefs.  Find a good church and become an active member.

2.) Raise a healthy child.  Make healthy eating choices and eat together as a family.  Exercise as a family by taking bike rides or walks to the park.   Grow a small garden and encourage your children to eat the fruits of their labor.

3.)  Raise a confident child.  Give your children praises for a job well done, and even if the job wasn’t done correctly, find something to give praise.

4.) Raise a bilingual child.  Currently English is the spoken language of the United States, however, Spanish is not far behind.  It is much easier to learn a second language as a child and when it comes to your child’s language development, it is important to emphasize both languages.  New learners need to be exposed to their second language at least 30% of the time.  Look into enrolling your child into supplementary classes or a bilingual after school program to help maintain that minimum 30%.

5.)  Raise a globally aware child.  Expose your children to different cultures through other culture’s foods, drama, art, stories, folklore, and music.   These experiences will build curiosity for more cultural experiences.

6.)  Raise a cooperative child.  Enlist your child’s help with projects, give praise for their effort, and appreciate their help.

7.) Raise a book lover.  Set a time, around bed time, for reading with your child every day for about half an hour.   Not only will your child develop a love for words, but your child will have a better chance for academic success.

8.) Raise a talented child.   You don’t have to sign your child up for ten different activities each week, but you should find at least one or two activities that your child loves to do and work them into your child’s routine. The activities can be anything from soccer to music class as long as your child shows a talent or a love for it.

9.) Raise a child to have outstanding character.   Parents should help children promote good moral conduct through self-discipline, outstanding work habits, considerate behavior to others, and community service.  If your child is too young to understand all of these things, just teach him/her to be kind toward others.

10.) Raise a child that can communicate.  Listen to your children!  It’s easy to tune them out and If you never listen to your children, they won’t feel you care so why bother.  Encouraging your children to talk and express themselves early on will help them communicate successfully in the future.

Uh-Oh Facebook’s Latest Version Pro’s or Con’s You Decide

Hi this is Terri Borman child care provider and author of children’s book  00B0B_dGlSBFfHl9M_600x450“Shapes Go to School” is beautifully illustrated and teaches children about shapes and colors.  To order your copy, click on the book and it will take you to Amazon.com!  I love writing about things related to children and this week I am writing about the new Facebook feature that is currently under testing.  If the new feature rolls out, it could affect privacy of its users young and old.

facebook privacy 2 The latest version of Facebook for iOS and Android will automatically be able to recognize the song you’re listening to or the television show you’re watching and then automatically add it to your status. This feature is called audio recognition and it turns on your microphone and starts listening as soon as you start typing a new status. There is no need to type “Listening To” or “Watching” in the status creating screen. When there is a match, a small smiley face badge pops up over Facebook’s feelings button. You can opt in to this feature for the first time by tapping a new button inside the status window.  There is no opt-out once you opt-in.

This latest feature update makes total sense for those Facebook users who love to post what they are listening to or watching. This feature will automatically post links to TV shows or movie pages and appear in statuses which used to be just plain text. Also, previews from Spotify, Rdio, and Deezer will appear when a song is recognized. Right now it can only recognize around 150 US television shows and several million songs, far behind Shazam, but Shazam employs hundreds of people to do just this.

This new feature will most likely create substantial revenue for the company, but it requires you to sacrifice your privacy by letting Facebook eavesdrop on you every time you post a status. Facebook claims it will not listen to your conversations and that you have to turn the feature on. The app says, “We can’t identify background noise and conversation,” and, “sounds are only used to find a match and are never stored.”

Sam Biddle, in an article published in Valleywag, however, was not convinced. He spoke to a Facebook representative on the question of what happens to the recording and considers their data-storage policies inscrutable.  The Facebook representative told Mr. Biddle, “if the feature finds a match and you do not post [a new status update], we only save that the content was matched in an anonymized and aggregated form.”  They did not elaborate as to how your sound recordings are anonymized and aggregated.  Mr. Biddle asked for clarification and he used this example. “Say your phone starts recording the TV show you’re watching, and you change your mind because you don’t want your friends to see you’re watching USA reruns at noon.”  He was told that even then, the recording is retained, but in a “form that isn’t associated with you.”  Per Mr. Biddle, “that’s a lot of audio data to be just processed through Facebook with no clear limits and a policy that just boils down to ‘trust us.’  And there hasn’t been an accompanying update to their privacy policies to match the new feature.”

NSA  Well we don’t need to be concerned about Big Brother peeking in on our Facebook audio logs or do we?  The NSA can record telephone conversations for an entire country for 30 days at a time!

facebook privacy  Facebook knows where you live, where you work, all your contact information, all your friends, what your political views are, and even who you are with. Now with this latest version they will learn even more about you!

facebook dinosaur  I’m sure they will be delivering a “privacy update” by the little blue dinosaur shortly.

IMAG0675  There is a petition against this new feature which has almost 600,000 signatures.  So do your due diligence and if you are against this latest feature, speak up.

For more information you can watch news channel, KRON4.com, broadcast about this latest version of Facebook dated June 4, 2014.

  1. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=50VFgfIedvs
  2. http://www.policymic.com/articles/89815/facebook-is-rolling-out-a-creepy-new-feature-on-all-of-its-phone-apps
  3. http://gizmodo.com/nsa-system-can-record-entire-countries-calls-for-30-da-1546390936
  4. http://www.nytimes.com/2014/05/23/technology/facebook-offers-privacy-checkup-to-all-1-28-billion-users.html?hp&_r=1
  5. http://valleywag.gawker.com/do-you-want-facebook-listening-to-your-iphone-1580156115
  6. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/02/14/facebook-relationship-study_n_4784291.html

 

Hey, What’s the Big IDEA?

idea4Hi this is Terri Borman child care provider and author of “Shapes Go to School.” This week’s blog is about IDEA, the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act. IDEA is a United States federal law and it regulates how states and public agencies will provide early intervention to children ages 0-3 and special education and related services to children with disabilities from ages 3-21.

idea 3IDEA considers autism, intellectual disabilities, hearing impairments including deafness, speech or language impairments, visual impairments including blindness, serious emotional disturbances, orthopedic impairments, traumatic brain injuries, and other health impairments disabilities and because of these disabilities these children need special education and related services.

Children with the disabilities listed above are automatically protected by Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act of 1973 and under the Americans with Disabilities Act.

Children that have disabilities but do not qualify for special education services under IDEA may however qualify for accommodations or modifications under Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act of 1973 and under the Americans with Disabilities Act.

There is a “zero rejection” rule.  The courts have ruled that no child even if the child is completely incapable of benefiting from educational services for example, the child is unconscious or even in a coma, will be denied educational services.

In Texas, we have a state run program called ECI which stands for Early Childhood Intervention.  ECI takes comprehensive evaluations and provides services for children who qualify from ages 0-3.  At age 3, the school district that the child is zoned for will do their own evaluations and take over the services to children who still qualify.  The ECI team that evaluates the child and plans services includes licensed or credentialed early intervention specialists, speech and language pathologists, physical and occupational therapists, psychologists, registered nurses, dietitians, social workers, and counselors.

As a child care provider, it is important for me to communicate with parents and let them know that I have concerns about their child and I will recommend ECI for an evaluation.  There have been children in my care that were developmentally behind and the parents chose not to have them evaluated and that child really struggled when they started school at age 5.  It’s unfortunate because they could have gotten so much help earlier.

So if you are a child care provider and you have some concerns about a child in your care, talk to the parents and inform them of the services available to their children either through a state run agency like ECI who provides services for children up to age 3 or through the school district they are zoned for that provides services for children ages 3 and up. 

If you are a parent and you have any concerns, call your state run agency and/or your school district and have your child evaluated. The evaluation is free and if your child qualifies for some services, it would be so much better to start early than to wait.

cropped-9781481758178.jpg It’s the very first day of Kindergarten for the shape children.  The teacher, Miss Heart, has asked each student to introduce themselves.  One by one each shape stands up and talks about themselves.  “Shapes Go to School” is a beautifully illustrated children’s book that teaches shapes and colors.  Order your copy of “Shapes Go to School” today!  Just click on the picture of the book!

School’s Going To Be Out But Don’t Pull Your Hair Out: Fun Activities to Keep Your Kids Active.

     Hi this is Terri Borman, childcare provider and author of “Shapes Go to School.”  This week’s blog is about planning activities for your school aged children during the summer break from school.   Don’t just let them sit at home idle, playing video games, and watching TV.  Get them engaged and out of the house doing some fun activities. 

     Right now is the perfect time to start planning and registering for these activities because they will fill up fast. There are so many camps available to choose from and the internet is a great place to find them.  Look for camps that would interest your child.  It makes no difference on your child’s age; there is something for all kids Kindergarten to 12th grade.

art camp  There are art camps available for those creative art and crafty kids.

3d animation camp  There are camps available at college universities.  This camp was last year summer of 2013 at SMU (Southern Methodist University) for students in grades 1 through 12.  Just look at all the choices.

  • 3D Animation, Digital Gaming, Movie Makers & Fab-Lab
  • CSI Forensics, Myth Breakers, Rockets & Flight
  • LEGO® Car Rally, Goofy Gizmos, Battlestorm & Mindstorm
  • LEGO® Architects, Mosaix, Friends & Pet-Bots
  • Cartooning, Drawing, Painting & Fashion Sketching
  • Math, Reading, Writing, Spelling & Literature Enhancement Skills
  • Think and Speak Up, Mind Your Manners, Social & Study Skills
  • SAT/ACT Test Preparation, College Planning & Applications
  • Allaka Zzam Magic Camp, Puppetry, Music & More
  • “Extended Day” options also available.

Chinese Camps  There are Chinese and martial arts camps.  Keeping your children active and teaching them discipline and self defense builds self-esteem and confidence.

circus camp  There are circus summer camps.  Let your child run away to the circus for one week.

dance 2 camp  There are dance camps.

Diva rock star camp  There are Diva Rock Star summer camps.

  Become a real rock star at School of Rock’s summer camps.

ice skating camps  There are ice skating summer camps.

horseriding camp  There are horse riding summer camps.

natural museum camps  Summer camps are available at your Natural Science and History Museums.

iphone and android app camp  There are iD (internal drive) Tech summer camps that will teach kids how to make IPhone Apps and Android Apps.  Your kids are always downloading and playing Apps from the App store.  Let them create their own.

science camp  There are summer science camps which range from making ooey gooey stuff to building robots.

swimming camps There are summer swimming camps.

water park camps  There are summer camps offered by your local water parks.

fort worth zoo There are summer camps offered by your local zoo.

sports camps  There are summer camps offered for every sport.

lake summer camp  There are action packed and full of adventure summer camps offered at your local lakes. 

00B0B_dGlSBFfHl9M_600x450“Shapes Go to School” is a beautifully illustrated children’s book that teaches shapes and colors.  It’s the very first day of Kindergarten for the shape children.  Some shapes are excited to be at school while others are apprehensive.  Order your copy of “Shapes Go to School” today!  Just click on the picture of the book!

 

Everything is Bigger in Texas Even the Number of Child Deaths!

Hi this is Terri Borman, childcare provider and author of “Shapes Go to School.”  This week’s blog is about teaching young children the importance of water safety.  Did you know that water safety month in Texas is in April, but for the rest of the country it’s in May?  This peaked my curiosity.  Why would Texas have water safety month in April?   Most pools don’t even open until the end of May on Memorial Day weekend making the month of May a much more reasonable choice for water safety month.

When you read this next sentence, you will understand why.  The State of Texas leads the nation in the number of children who die from drowning.  Children drowning in inadequately fenced swimming pools or unsupervised children swimming in pools is the number one cause of death among children under the age of five.  Harris County had the most deaths of children ages 0 to 18 attributed to drowning out of all the counties.  State Senator Joan Huffman from Houston says, “we designated April as water safety month in Texas for the next ten years.  We will all be working together to highlight the importance of drowning prevention programs and resources in our great state.”

Per the Texas Child Fatality Review Team report for 2013 there were 61 Drowning deaths. “Pools are the most common site for drowning deaths. Children 1-4 years of age accounted for 61 drowning fatalities in pools. Of those deaths that occurred in a private pool, 88 percent had no barrier to limit access to the pool.  Poor or absent supervision was cited as a contributing factor in 59 percent of the deaths of children younger than 5 years old. (pages 34-35)”

Child deaths due to drowning is not just happening in the State of Texas.  According to the National Center for Injury Prevention and Control, “drowning is the country’s number one cause of death in children 1 to 4 years of age and the second biggest cause in children 5 to 14 years of age.”  Here are some things you can do to help prevent a child from drowning:

1.)  Enroll young children in preschool aquatics (a swimming course for young children).

2.)  Enroll older children into age appropriate swimming lessons.

3.)  Teach your children to swim in designated areas supervised by lifeguards.

4.)  Teach your children to swim with a buddy.

5.)  Never leave a young child unattended near water.

6.)  Have young children wear U.S. Coast Guard approved life jackets, especially around lakes or while boating.

7.)  Establish water safety rules for your family and enforce them.

8.)  Avoid the use of alcohol. It impairs your judgment, balance and coordination.   It affects swimming and diving skills and reduces your own body’s ability to stay warm.

9.)  Install and use proper fencing around your home swimming pool or hot tub.  Safety covers and pool alarms should be added as for extra protection.  Ensure that the fence around the pool encloses the entire pool area.  The fencing needs to be at least 4 feet high with gates that are self-closing, self-latching and open outward away from the pool.  The latch on the gates should be high enough to be out of a small child’s reach.

10.)  If you have an above ground or inflatable pool, remove the access ladders and secure the safety cover whenever the pool is not in use.

11.)  Remove any large objects such as outdoor furniture, climbable trees, decorative walls, and playground equipment that could provide access to the pool.

12.)  Keep toys that are not in use away from the pool and out of sight.  Toys can attract young children to the pool.

13.)  MAINTAIN CONSTANT SUPERVISION, always stay an arm’s reach from young children and avoid distractions when supervising children around water.

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Finally, know what to do in an emergency.  If a child is missing, always check the water first because every second counts in preventing death.  If you own a swimming pool or hot tub, have appropriate equipment to reach or throw to a victim, have a cell phone to call 911, have life jackets and a first aid kit.  Enroll in water safety, first aid and CPR courses to learn how to prevent and respond to emergencies.

Resources:

http://newsfixnow.com/2014/04/01/april-is-all-about-water-safety-awareness-month/#SorUZoiPQWgHk8d6.99

http://legiscan.com/TX/text/SCR1/id/668167

http://www.redcross.org/prepare/disaster/water-safety

http://www.houstonpublicmedia.org/news/april-is-water-safety-awareness-month/

“Shapes Go to School” is a beautifully illustrated children’s book that teaches shapes, colors and diversity by helping children to understand that everyone is different.  It’s the very first day of Kindergarten for the shape children and some are excited to be there while others are apprehensive. To order your copy of “Shapes Go to School” click on the picture of the book.

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Does Your Child Have The Four Crucial C’s?

Hi this is Terri Borman, childcare provider and author of “Shapes Go to School.”   This book teaches children about shapes, colors and diversity.  It helps children to understand that everyone is different.  This week’s blog is about teaching young children the four crucial C’s.  By around age five the personality of a child is set so it is crucial the child understands the four C’s in the early years.  Children who have all the four C’s are caring, cooperative, considerate and creative.  Does your child have the four crucial C’s?

connectionConnection

“I need to believe I have a place I belong.”

Children need to feel like they are connected and have value or else insecurity will set in.  Here are some things we can do to help children feel connected.

1.)   Show interest in each child and find out about their hobbies.

2.)   Give positive attention to each child.

3.)   Find and recognize strengths and talents of each child.

4.)   Show acceptance of each child.

capableCapable

“I need to believe I can do it.”

Children need to believe in themselves or else inadequacy will set in and the power struggle will begin.  They need to be encouraged to be self-reliant at every opportunity.  Here are some things we can do to help children feel capable.

1.)  Once a child has learned a new skill, allow them to keep doing it for themselves.

2.)  Make a child’s mistake become a learning experience by demonstrating the correct way.

3.)  Build a child’s confidence by believing in them and focusing on the improvement not the imperfection.

counting 2Counting:

“I need to believe I can make a difference.”

Children need to believe they contribute and have value or else they may see themselves as being insignificant and feel the need for revenge.  Here are some things we can do to make children feel like they count.

1.)  Promote contribution by allowing the children to do a job every day that aides in the day to day activities and let them have an input in the scheduling and the activities for the day.

2.)  Provide recognition by sending them a note about what you noticed and appreciated about them that day.

3.)  Hold a meeting and let each child have a say about their likes and dislikes.

courage 2Courage

“I need to believe I can handle what comes.”

Children need to believe they can handle whatever situation arises or else they can feel a sense of hopelessness and give up.  Children with courage will learn more quickly because they will persevere and not give up.  Here are some things we can do to nurture courage in children.

1.)  Become expertly trained in the skill of encouragement, meaning always encourage every child every day.

2.)  Always focus on the effort and the improvement.

3.)  Replace the traditional competitive style approaches with cooperative ones.  It’s not always a race to the finish.

The Crucial Cs and Rudolf Dreikurs’ Short-Range Goals of Misbehavior

Amy Lew and Betty Lou Bettner

 Child’s belief  Child feels Child’s negative goal  Adult feels  Adult’s impulse Child’s response to correction
I only count when I’m being noticed insecurealienated ATTENTION irritated annoyed REMINDWhat, again? “temporarily” stops
My strength is in showing you that you can’t make me and you can’t stop me. inadequate,dependent others arein control POWER angrychallenged FIGHTI insist that you do as I say. misbehavior intensifies
I knew you were against me. No one really likes me. I’ll show you how it feels. insignificant REVENGEget backget even hurt or wants to punish PUNISHHow could you do this to me? us? them?
I’ll teach you a lesson.
wants to get even,makes self disliked
I can’t do anything right so I won’t try. If I don’t try, my failures won’t be so obvious. inferioruselesshopeless AVOIDANCE display of inadequacy despairI give up.hopeless GIVE UP It’s no use. passive,no change,more hopeless,displaysinadequacy

Remember: Misbehavior is a symptom of the child’s discouragement at not having the Crucial Cs. Use encouragement and training through natural and logical consequences. Consider and agree on choices together.

Crucial Cs Constructive Alternatives Child’s belief Child feels Child’s positive goal
CONNECT Replace negative attention with positive attention.   Plan activities together. Don’t ignore the child; ignore the misbehavior.   Teach self-sufficiency. I belong. secure  COOPERATION
 CAPABLE Don’t try to win. Give opportunity and choices so child can display power constructively.Maintain friendly attitude. I can do it. competentself-control SELF-RELIANCE
 COUNT Avoid anger and hurt feelings. Maintain, appreciation in relationship. Offer chances to help. Seek support and help in identifying positives.(Don’t give up.) I matter. I can make a difference. significant valuable CONTRIBUTION
 COURAGE Notice only strengths and ignore the negative. Set up steady exposure to manageable tasks that have a guarantee of success.No criticism. I can handle what comes. hopefulwilling to try RESILIENCY

Copyright © 1995 Amy Lew and Betty Lou Bettner. The authors grant permission to copy this chart for educational purposes only, provided that the authors are cited.

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Resources:

I attended a child care training provided by the Tarrant County Professional Home Child Care Association April 9, 2014.  The trainer, Tiffany Tepper, LCSW, spoke to us about guiding children’s behaviors and the four crucial C’s.  She listed her resource as “A Parent’s Guide to Understanding and Motivating Children.” 

After further research, I found that the crucial C’s may have evolved from Alfred Adler’s theories.  Alford Adler founded the Society of Individual Psychology in 1912 and his theories have played an essential role in a number of areas including child development.

9781481758161_COVER_V3.indd For a copy of “Shapes Go to School” click on the link below.

http://www.amazon.com/Shapes-Go-School-Terri-Borman/dp/1481758160/ref=sr_1_sc_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1397427814&sr=8-1-spell&keywords=shapes+go+to+schooll

 

Kids With Diabetes Can Still Be Kids

diabetes2Hi this is Terri Borman, childcare provider and author of “Shapes Go to School.”  A book that teaches children about shapes, colors, and diversity.  It helps children to understand that everyone is different.  This week’s blog is about kids with diabetes still being active kids.

There are two types of diabetes, Type 1 and Type 2.  Both types of diabetes involve problems with insulin, a hormone released from the pancreas that allows glucose (blood sugar) to be converted into fuel or energy.  Kids with Type 1 diabetes produce little or no insulin and kids with Type 2 diabetes produce insulin, but lifestyle factors such as being overweight, little to no exercise, and poor diet causes the body’s fat and muscle cells to block the insulin from entering.  Type 1 diabetes is not curable and can only be treated with insulin injections.  Type 2 diabetes is curable with lifestyle changes such as an improved diet and an increase in physical exercise.

Kids with diabetes need to be diligent in keeping their blood sugars from getting too high or too low.  They do this by testing their blood sugars regularly and balancing when and what they eat and when they exercise with when they take their medicines.  These medicines help take the sugar out of the blood causing the level of sugar in the blood to go down.  Unfortunately, it’s not as easy as it sounds.  There’s no magic pill that kids with diabetes take once a day and they’re good to go.  They have to take insulin injections or use an insulin pump all throughout the day and it’s a tricky balancing act.  Sometimes blood sugar levels can swing high or low.

DiabetesHigh blood sugar, otherwise known as hyperglycemia, happens when the body cannot make insulin like with Type 1 diabetes or it cannot use the insulin properly like with Type 2 diabetes and the blood sugar level rises in the body.  Some symptoms of hyperglycemia are thirstiness, headaches, not able to concentrate, blurry vision, weight loss, and frequent urination.  Long term hyperglycemia can damage the vessels that supply blood to vital organs increasing the risk of heart and kidney disease, strokes, and vision and nerve problems.  Some causes of hyperglycemia may be from skipping or forgetting to take your medicine, eating too much food for the amount of medicine taken, infection, illness, increased stress, decreased physical activity, or strenuous physical activity.

diabetes3Low blood sugar, otherwise known as hypoglycemia, can cause severe symptoms that need to be treated right away.  Symptoms include headaches, shaking, sweating, fatigue, weakness, hunger, and in extreme cases, coma and death.  Long term complications can include heart and kidney disease, glaucoma or blindness, blockages of the arteries in the legs, nerve damage, and foot and skin problems. Some causes of hypoglycemia are from skipping meals or snacks, not eating enough food at a mealtime, exercising longer or harder than usual, too much medicine, or not timing the medicine properly with meals, snacks, and exercise.  Also there are some factors that may increase how quickly the medicine gets absorbed into the bloodstream.  For example, taking a hot shower or bath right after taking your medicine increases the blood flow which can cause the medicine to be absorbed quicker than normal.

That’s some scary stuff!  Diabetes is something to not be taken lightly.  However, kids with diabetes can still be kids. They can excel at sports or beat you at backgammon.  Let’s hear from actual kids who have been diagnosed with diabetes.

Meet Eva, a 14 year old who loves dancing and running Cross Country and recently she was diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes.

2012-10-16_15-52-21_310I will never forget the 21st of February 2014. The best and worst day of my life. It was amazing because I finally figured out why I was so sick all the time.. (I had every symptom very severely) but it was also a very hard diagnosis to wrap my head around. When they took me to the hospital by ambulance, they hooked me up to all these I.V.’s and crazy things. I just remember my mom crying and my dad busy being very hard to get a hold of.. literally.. he seriously ignored every one of her calls. (I don’t blame him.. she’s a little nuts ha-ha).  I texted my sister through everything.  She originally told me to go to a doctor because for the previous weeks I had told her all my symptoms but it never crossed any of our minds.

In the hospital, they made me pee in trays, carry around a stupid monitor, and even made me fast for 24 hours to determine if I was type 1 or type 2. The worst part? Their nurses smelled like bacon. No seriously, I really just wanted a cheeseburger. I was pretty calm for the most part, until they showed me insulin shots. I grew up watching my dad constantly take insulin shots but never (honestly) really cared.  It took about 2 shots before I ripped my insulin pen away from my nurses and did it myself.. I’m better than them anyway.  I kept asking when I could get out and eat food and even shop.  They just gave me looks like I needed mental help.

I stayed in the hospital for a few days and in one word it was: AWKWARD. Everyone just kinda sat there looking at me all day while I whined about not getting water.  Not to mention at one point, my dad, my mom, my sister, her boyfriend, my step-dad, my stepsister, my grandparents, and my step grandparents were all in one room at the same time… yeah the entire experience really showed me who really cared about me.  This girl I stuck up for once in school visited me with flowers and candy.  I never even really talked to her.  It was incredible.  The day I got out I skipped to the car and begged to go shopping.  This lasted for a couple of days.  Finally my mom budged and took me shopping.

I returned to school a couple days later and a few people cared but one of my “best friends” just looked at me and asked if I did any work on our science project… Yeah, I left my carb free soda spills on the front page… it really shows how many people will really be there if you fall.  Anyway, I went to school with my new diabetic purse and everyone stared at me.  No, I am not trying to become some weird 20 year old wannabe, I would just rather not carry needles in my bare hands :).  Some people were interested and some weren’t which was not good, but not bad. My teachers didn’t know until the next week. They were very understanding and I will forever respect them all because of that.

Just like any other teenager, I love hanging out with friends. I am still the same person, just cooler. I mean, how many people can say they take shots to live and actually have a legit reason of it? That’s right, only a few million. I love cross country and dancing. I still do them both, just eating snacks in between so I don’t faint or go into a seizure of low blood sugar. I see this diagnosis as a blessing. I am more educated, grateful for food, and more understanding as a person.

What do I do? Type 1 diabetics have an organ (the pancreas) that doesn’t function. The pancreas produces insulin which breaks down sugars in your body. Without it, people die. Pretty simple. When your body stops producing insulin, you have to do it yourself. Type ones take insulin shots. Insulin is a protein that hooks to sugars and maintains your blood sugar. Insulin shots are based on carbs. carbs or carbohydrates are basically sugar in foods or drinks. For me, personally, every 15 carbs I eat, I have to take .5 unit of insulin for .1 unit of insulin is a pea sized drop. That drop makes a world difference. I put the needle on my insulin pen, which really does look like an oversized pen, and inject my insulin in my arms, stomach, or my favorite, my legs. I have to check my blood sugar every three hours or so to prevent hyper or hypoglycemia. To test my blood sugar, I take a strip that has a microchip in it and put it into my Glucometer. I then prick my finger with a tiny needle and draw a drop of blood. I put that blood on that strip and it reads my blood sugar. This determines if I need more carbs, or more insulin.

Questions everyone wants to know:

1)Does it hurt? Nah, the needles are so tiny, you get used to it very quickly!

2)Don’t you need to take a shot for that? I’m the diabetic. I can look at a plate of food and guess the carbs in it. Sometimes I can even feel what my blood sugar is.. Trust me. I am a pro 😉

3)Did you eat too much sugar? Noooo mine is a genetic disease passed on from my father 🙂

4)Is it contagious? Uhm yeah! Haven’t you heard?? It’s spreading like crazy!!

5)Can you have that? Yep. I eat everything and I can eat everything.

6)Why diet? Diet soda has no carbs aka no shots aka my bff.

7)What can’t you do now? The only thing I can’t do now is make my own insulin. And fly. Or turn invisible.. but that’s not the point.

8)Oh.. so that’s why you are sick? I have the weakest stomach known to humans. I don’t get sick more often than I used to, I just have millions of doctor appointments:)

9)Did you just say you’re high? For diabetics, high means my blood sugar is through the roof and I need insulin. I don’t do drugs.

I take that back. Insulin is a healthy drug, but that’s the only one I plan on taking forever.

Eva

Now meet Alex, a 16 year old who loves traveling and tap dancing and also has Type 1 diabetes.

AlexTapShoe200605sHello, my name is Alex. I am 16 years old and live in Seattle, Washington. I was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes right before 6th grade. My parents thought that the reason I was losing weight was that I had just gotten braces. At first, I didn’t like all the needles and stuff, but I got used to it. Around 8th grade, I started using glargine and an insulin pen, which was easier than Humalog and NPH insulin by syringe. About a year ago, I got a Deltec Cozmo insulin pump and I like it a lot. It makes traveling a lot easier.

My favorite things to do are tap dancing (which I have been doing for about 10 years) and playing music, mostly jazz with my high school’s jazz band. Tap dancing can be pretty strenuous, and it is one of the most efficient ways to lower my blood sugar. I also like traveling. I have been to Italy, France, England, New York City, and Pennsylvania. I have learned a lot about how to adjust my insulin dose when I travel. This summer, my school’s jazz band is going on a European tour including Rotterdam, Copenhagen, Stockholm, and Helsinki. It is going to be really fun.

To those of you who have been recently diagnosed with diabetes, I have a few words of encouragement. First of all, you should know that despite all of the needles, you can still have lots of fun. Secondly, it’s important to learn how to take care of yourself especially checking your blood sugar. Finally, once you learn how to control your blood sugar, you can do anything!

That’s just about it. Hope to hear from some of you.

Alex

Resources

Organizations

  • American Diabetes Association – www.diabetes.org – Offers information on nutrition and weight loss, diabetes research, treatment and prevention, plus information specifically for parents, kids and schools.
  • Children with Diabetes – www.childrenwithdiabetes.com – This privately run site, recommended by the ADA, includes forums, chat rooms, news about research and treatment, and the chance to post questions to healthcare professionals.
  • Joslin Diabetes Center – 800-JOSLIN-1, www.joslin.org – A worldwide leader in diabetes research and treatment. Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation – http://www.jdrf.org – JDRF funds and advocates for type 1 diabetes research worldwide. The Web site includes a newsletter, pen pal connections for kids and information on fund-raising and research.
  • The Search for Diabetes in Youth – www.searchfordiabetes.org – Offers diabetic kids under age 20 the chance to participate in a six-year study seeking to determine how many kids have each diabetes type, and to investigate complications and treatment.
  • The TODAY Study – www.todaystudy.org – TODAY (Treatment Options for type 2 Diabetes in Adolescents and Youth) is a nationwide study seeking the best treatment options for kids with type 2 diabetes. The site offers links to study sites, and an opportunity to participate in the research.

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Asthma, It’s Breathtaking!

boy with asthmaHi this is Terri Borman, childcare provider and author of “Shapes Go to School.”  This book teaches children about shapes, colors and diversity.  It also helps children to understand that everyone is different.  This week’s blog is about children affected by asthma and how we as parents and childcare providers can reduce their risk of an asthma attack by knowing more about this disease.

th (2)Asthma is a disease that causes the airways of the lungs to swell, narrowing the airway.  The swelling/narrowing of the airway causes wheezing, shortness of breath, chest tightness, and coughing.

Per the American Lung Association, asthma affects an estimated 7 million children.  It is the third leading cause of hospitalization among children and it is one of the leading causes of school absenteeism with an estimated 14 million lost school days per year.

An asthma trigger is a thing or activity that makes asthma worse.  When a child with asthma comes into contact with a trigger, it can cause a sudden worsening of symptoms which is called an asthma attack, episode or flare up.

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Respiratory infections such as a cold, flu or sinus infection are the most common triggers of asthma symptoms worsening leading to an asthma attack.  Also medical conditions such as Acid Reflux can worsen asthma symptoms.

Food allergies and medicines can trigger an asthma attack.  Common food and medicine allergies are from peanuts, shellfish, aspirin and non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs like ibuprofen and naproxen.

All types of smoke can trigger an asthma attack. Cigarette, wood burning fire places, leaf burning, or campfires are examples.

Weather, pollen, and air pollution can worsen asthma symptoms and trigger an asthma attack. Children are more susceptible to an asthma attack when there is a sudden and extreme temperature change.  Air pollution, smog or vehicle exhaust causes poor air quality and changes in the season causes increased pollen in the air.  Always check the AQI (air quality index) and the pollen count and limit your outdoor time during high pollen times or when the AQI is at an unhealthy level.

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Animals can trigger an asthma attack. The dander and saliva from animals with fur or feathers can be an allergen for some and can cause the worsening of asthma symptoms.  Birds, cats, dogs, ferrets, hamsters, Guinea pigs, bunnies or mice are examples.

Pests such as dust mites, cockroaches, and rodents in the home, workplace or school can trigger an asthma attack.  Wash bedding regularly, vacuum and dust weekly, and use allergen-proof pillow and mattress covers.

Mold is an allergen that can trigger an asthma attack.  Clean visible mold, throw away moldy items, run a dehumidifier, and use the exhaust fan when taking a shower.

Exercise like walking, climbing stairs, or intense exercise, sports and swimming can trigger an asthma attack.  If prescribed, use your quick relief inhaler 15-30 minutes prior to exercising.

Strong odors from cleaning products, scented candles, incense, hair spray, air fresheners, and personal care products can trigger an asthma attack.  Whenever possible, choose products that are odor and fragrance free.

Strong emotions like laughing or crying too hard, feeling stressed or anxious, anger, fear or yelling can increase rapid breathing and trigger an asthma attack.

For more information visit these websites:

American Academy of Allergy,Asthma & Immunology: (414)272-6071 www.aaaai.org

American Academy of Pediatrics: www.aap.org

American College of Allergy, Asthma & Immunology: (847)427-1200 www.acaai.org

American Lung Association: (800)-LUNGUSA (800)586-4872 www.lung.org

Asthma and Allergy Foundation of America: (800)727-8462 www.aafa.org

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention: (800)CDC-INFO (800)232-4636 www.cdc.gov

National Asthma Education and Prevention Program: NHLBI Health Information Network
(301)592-8573 www.nhlbi.nih.gov/about/naepp

National Heart, Lung, and Blood Institute:  www.nhlbi.nih.gov

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