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Stages of Child Development: Is Your Child On Track?

child developmentHi this is Terri Borman, childcare provider and author of “Shapes Go to School.”  This week’s blog is about the stages of child development.  First, I must tell you about my book.

00B0B_dGlSBFfHl9M_600x450“Shapes Go to School” is a beautifully illustrated children’s book that teaches shapes, colors and diversity.  It helps children to understand that everyone is different.  It’s the very first day of Kindergarten for the shape children.  Some shapes are excited to be at school while others are apprehensive.  Order your copy of “Shapes Go to School” today!  Just click on the picture of the book.

Now let’s get back to child development.  I am going to go over the stages of child development from birth to age five.  Please keep in mind that the time frames listed for achieving developmental milestones are estimated.  Some children may achieve various developmental milestones earlier or later than the estimated time frames but still fall within the normal parameters.  This information is designed with the intention to help parents understand what to expect from their child.  Any questions or concerns you may have about your child’s development should be shared with his/her pediatrician.

Birth to one month: A newborn to one month of age will eat approximately five to eight times per day and sleep approximately 20 hours.  The infant will make basic distinctions in vision, hearing, smelling, tasting, touch, temperature, and pain.  An infant at this age will not be sociable. 

Two to three months:  At two to three months, the infant can perceive different colors and explore visually and orally.  Verbally the infant can cry, coo and grunt.   They can lift their heads when on tummy and kick arms and legs.  They are starting to be sociable and will smile at a face.

Four to Six months:  Between four and six months the infant will start babbling and eat between three and five times per day.  They are more able to control their head and arm movements, grasp objects and roll over.  They can recognize familiar persons and they expect to be fed, bathed and dressed.  They will help hold the bottle during feeding.

Seven to Nine Months:  Between seven and nine months the infant can sit without support and crawl around. They enjoy playing Peek-a-boo and may start to have separation anxiety.

Ten to Twelve Months: Between ten and twelve months, the infant can pull up to stand, says one or two words but knows up to five or six words, imitate sounds and respond to simple commands.  They can eat table food now, three meals and two snacks a day.  They will sleep twelve hours at night and take two naps during the day.  They are very curious and want to explore their surroundings.  Uh-Oh they may have fear of strangers, AKA stranger danger.  They can wave bye-bye, play pat-a-cake and they understand when you tell them “No!”  They may give a toy to a friend or take it away.

Twelve to Eighteen Months:  No longer an infant!  These toddlers are much more independent.  They can walk without help, eat by themselves and say a few more words.  Watch out!  They can also go up the stairs.  They can still experience separation anxiety and may now fear taking a bath.   They can scribble scrabble on paper with crayons.

Eighteen to Twenty-Four Months:  At eighteen and twenty-four months, they can run, kick a ball and build a 6 cube tower.  They are capable of being potty trained.  They can take off their shoes, socks and gloves.  They have a vocabulary of more than 200 words and say two to three word sentences.  They will still sleep twelve hours at night with a one to two hour nap during the day.  They may start having temper tantrums when things don’t go their way and might do the opposite when asked to do something.

Two Years to Three Years:  Between two and three years, they can jump off a step and ride a tricycle.  They can feed themselves with eating utensils.  They can properly use crayons and color with a purpose.  They can build a 9-10 cube tower.  They can put on their shoes closer to three years of age.  They are using short sentences.  They may still have separation anxiety and violent temper tantrums.  They can also have a sense of humor and play tricks.  They can be possessive of toys but mostly enjoy playing alongside other children.  They like more than anything staying on a routine.

Three Years to Four Years:  Between three and four years, they can stand on one leg, jump up and down, draw a circle or a cross on a piece of paper, and open doors.   They are very self-sufficient in many routines and completely potty trained.  They like to show affection to their parents and other caregivers.  They may start being afraid of the dark.  Most 3 to 4 year old children like to share with other children and play dramatic play.  They will speak in three to five word sentences.

Four Years to Five Years:  Between four and five years of age they have mastered their motor control.  They can skip and take big jumps.  They can dress themselves.  They can read and write and draw shapes on paper.  They feel guilt and pride when they accomplish something.  They are very sociable and competitive.  They speak clearly now and they have mastered basic grammar skills.  They know over 2000 words.

I have put together an assessment that you can print out and use to check off your own child’s milestones.  This assessment is also great for child care providers to use to assess the children in their care.   Click on the link below.  Remember if you notice something that your child is not able to do when the assessment says just be patient it’s an estimate.  Practice that task with your child and/or consult your child’s pediatrician.

Child Development Assessment (Click here for a free printable child development assessment!)

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“Holy Strawberries Batman We’re in a Jam!”

batman and robinHi this is Terri Borman, child care provider and author of the children’s book “Shapes Go to School.”  This book teaches children shapes, colors, and diversity.  It helps children to understand that everyone is different.

Last week I blogged about children with Autism and how service animals are making a difference in their lives.  This week’s blog is about children that have conduct/behavior disorders that cause them to act out in school, child care or at home and how play therapy is helping the children to cope and to learn better problem solving solutions.

play therapyChildren love to play.  It’s fun and lifts their spirits.  They use their imaginations during role playing, which relieves stress and all their worries fade away.

According to The Association for Play Therapy, “play therapy is a structure based clinical approach to therapy that builds normal communicative and learning processes.  Through play therapy children communicate with others, express feelings, modify behavior, develop problem solving skills and learn ways to relate to others.”

The most worrisome of problems can be addressed in play therapy.  By confronting the problem in a play therapy setting, children learn better solutions for that problem.  Play therapy is directed by a play therapist, a licensed mental health professional with a Master’s or Doctorate degree in the mental health field.

Play therapy is appropriate for ages 3 to 12 and it can help children with anger management, grief or loss, divorce, crisis, trauma, anxiety, depression, ADHD, Autism, and conduct disorders.  Play therapy sessions are once a week and take between 30-50 minutes.  It takes approximately 20 sessions to start resolving the child’s problems.  Some children will improve faster while more serious problems may take longer to resolve.

Play therapy has positive results!  The child becomes more responsible for his/her behavior, learns new solutions to problems, and develops self-respect for his/herself plus respect for others.  The child will learn appropriate social skills and relational skills with family.

Batman 4Masks, hats,  zoo and farm animals, building blocks, puppets, sand tables, role playing costumes, and arts and crafts are all examples of toys that can be used during play therapy, but any toy that involves the imagination to play will work.  Children love Super heroes like Batman, Spiderman, Superman, and the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles making them very effective to use in play therapy.

For more information on play therapy please visit The Association for Play Therapy website: http://www.a4pt.org



Ready Set Go Potty!

Hi this is Terri Borman child care provider and author of “Shapes Go to School.”  A big milestone for the little ones in my care is potty training.  I usually start potty training a child around the age of 2.  I look for signs that he/she may be ready and then I talk to the parents. In order for the child to be successful, the parents and the day care need to be on the same page. Consistency, routine, and patience are critical for success.

Here are some signs that a child is ready for potty training. 1.) The child understands and follows simple instructions.  2.) The child may tell you through words or actions that he/she needs to go potty.  For instance, the child may pull at the diaper while he/she is going potty.    3.)  The child stays dry for periods of 2 hours or longer during the day.  4.)  The child can pull his/her pants down and then back up again.  5.) The child can sit and then get back up from a potty chair unassisted.

If the child can do most of the things above, then the child is ready for potty training. If there were several things above that the child cannot do, then you should wait a little longer before starting to potty train.  However, this does not mean give up to the idea of potty training.  You should start working with the child on the things above that had he/she could not do.  For instance, if the child could not pull down and up his/her pants, then start working with the child during diaper changes by having them help you pull their pants down and up.

Fisher Price Potty ChairWhen you decide it is time to start potty training, then you need to get the right equipment.  The best potty chair I have found that keeps potty inside especially little boys potty is made by Fisher Price (see picture).  This chair is also very easy to clean and sanitize. It’s also time to get rid of the diapers and go to pull-ups.  Pull-ups will be easier for them to pull up and down by themselves.  Also, dress the child in clothes that are easy for them to manage.

Schedule potty breaks often.  I schedule them every hour and half hour and always right after a snack/meal with drinks.  If you can get them quickly on the potty chair right after they wake up from a nighttime sleep or a daytime nap, they will almost always have success on the potty.  Let them sit for several minutes and be positive regardless if they are successful or not.

They love to put stickers on their worksheets so have a sticker chart for them to track their potty time successes.  Set up a reward system for so many stickers you get a prize like a new book.  I would love to plug my book “Shapes Go to School” sold at Amazon.com and Barnesandnoble.com.  You could also use trips to the park or a picnic as a reward.  Click on the link for a free printable Potty Success Chart. Potty Success Chart

For whatever reason, some children take longer to train themselves to do their #2 business on the potty.  One of my daughter’s was very reluctant to doing #2 on the potty.  She would bring me a diaper when she needed to go #2.  If I refused to let her wear a diaper, she would hide somewhere and do it in her underwear or she would hold it for days.  One day she just started to go #2 on the potty.

Help your child be successful staying dry at night by cutting off all liquids at least an hour before bedtime and always have one last potty break before bedtime.  Remember it’s about consistency, routine, and patience.


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Hi this is Terri Borman child care provider and author of “Shapes Go to School.”  One of the most common complaints I hear from parents as they drop their kiddos off in the morning is about their sleep deprivation.  They are holding their eyes open with toothpicks and looking for the Folgers so they can wake up.  What is causing their lack of sleep?  Well, if you guessed their children kept them up all night, then you are correct. This isn’t just a phenomena happening at my child care…. It’s a phenomena happening all across the USA.

The National Sleep Foundation recently released its annual “Sleep in America” poll.  They polled parents to see how much sleep their child usually gets per night.  The estimates were well below the foundation’s recommendations for all age levels.

The National Sleep Foundation recommends preschoolers (ages 3 to 5) to get between 11 to 13 hours of sleep per night.  School aged kids (ages 5 to 10) should get between 10 to 11 hours of sleep per night. Teens (ages 11-17) should get 8.5 to 9.5 hours of sleep per night.

So what’s the solution to this widespread problem?  I researched several articles and came to this conclusion for getting a better night’s sleep.  First of all, children need to follow a nightly bedtime routine that is consistent.  A consistent bedtime routine makes it easier for your child to fall asleep and sleep through the night. 

Set a bedtime that is at the same time every night.  Make bedtime relaxing with no television or videos.  According to Dr. Shelby Harris, a sleep psychologist and director of the Behavioral Sleep Medicine program at Montefiore Medical Center in New York City, the blue light from device screens makes our brains think it is daytime and stops producing melatonin.  Melatonin is produced in the brain when the sun goes down, signaling that bedtime is coming within a few hours, and melatonin helps to regulate sleep.

Here is a sample bedtime routine:

1.)    Make a light snack.  Bananas, avocado, peanuts, almonds, figs and milk based drinks all contain tryptophans, which aide in the production of melatonin. 

 2.)    Have your child take a warm bath or shower.

 3.)    Have your child put on comfortable pajamas.  FYI, don’t let them put on the outfit they picked for the next day or at least draw the line at the shoes.  Yes true story I did catch my daughter in bed with her shoes on once.

 4.)    Have your child brush their teeth.

 5.)    Read with your child a book like for example “Shapes Go to School” available at Amazon.com.  Sorry I had to throw my book a plug.  Did you also like the title of this article Star Light Star Bright?  I thought it tied into the book nicely too!  Kudo’s to Pinterest for the help!

 6.)    Make sure the room is at a comfortable temperature.  You may want to run a fan for the white noise and for air circulation.  If the weather is cool, I will still run the fan for the white noise but I don’t let it blow directly on the children.

 7.)    Put your child to bed awake and encourage them to fall asleep on their own.  A child who can fall asleep on their own will be able to return to sleep during night time awakenings.  Infants who are put to bed tired but not asleep, are more likely to become self-soothers which allows them to fall asleep independently at bedtime and put themselves back to sleep during the night time.  Infants should be put on their backs to sleep with nothing in their beds except a passifier.  Swaddling is no longer an accepted practice and is considered dangerous to infants 8 weeks and older.

Be blessed and to all the parent’s out there happy dreams,

Terri Borman

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When the Weather Outside is Friiightning!

Hi this is Terri Borman author of “Shapes Go to School.”  I am also a child care provider and when I cannot take the children outside due to bad weather I try to find learning activities I can do with the children inside.  Today I am going to show you how to have an indoor treasure shape hunt by hiding shapes around the house.


STEP 1.) Cut out shapes from foam squares available from any craft store.


STEP 2.) Hide the shapes around the house.

STEP 3.) Draw a treasure map.

Pirate Map

To print out this color pirate map template (you must use a color printer) use this link below.


If you don’t have a color printer, and you want to make a treasure map on plain paper click on this link below.

Pirate Map Plain Paper


STEP 4.) Help make the children pirate hats! ARRRRGGG

Pirate Hat APirate Hat BPirate Hat CPirate Hat EPirate Hat DPirate Hat FPirate Hat G

To see full instructions for making a pirate hat click on the link below.


STEP 5.) Have the children go find the treasure shapes and have FUN!! Get your copy of “Shapes Go to School” from these fine retailers:

Amazon.com, Barnesandnoble.com, and Authorhouse.com

Try This Free Activity Worksheet From Shapes Go to School

Hi everyone this is Terri Borman author of Shapes Go to School and a child care provider.  I hope you enjoyed last weeks activity worksheet which let your children color all the shapes that are in the book “Shapes Go to School.”

This week I have made you another activity worksheet called Shapes Go to School Activity Worksheet Squares.  This worksheet will let your children trace the squares and then color them blue.

Remember you have to hold the control button and then click on the link below.  It will then pop up a tab at the top of your browser.  Click on the tab at the top of your browser to see and print the new activity worksheet.

As always be blessed and have a great week!

Terri Borman


Shapes Go to School Activity Worksheet Squares

Activity You Can Do With Your Kids After Reading Shapes Go to School

Hi this is Terri Borman author of “Shapes Go to School.”  I am also a child care provider so I am always looking for activities that I can do with the children that correlate with the book we are currently reading.

For this weeks blog, I have created an activity worksheet for the children to color that correlates with “Shapes Go to School.”  This worksheet reinforces the shapes that they have learned from reading the story.  It’s also great memory practice for the children because they have to remember what colors the shapes were in the story and color them the same color.  If they cannot remember what color a certain shape was in the story, they can practice problem solving by looking in the book.

To access this worksheet press control and click on the link below. This will open up a tab at the top of your browser.  Click on the tab called Shapes Go to School Activity Sheet to see and print the worksheet.

If you would like to purchase a personally signed copy of “Shapes Go to School,” please contact me directly at shapesgotoschool@gmail.com.  Otherwise the book is available at these retailers. Authorhouse, Amazon, and Barnes and Noble.

Please enjoy this worksheet!

Shapes Go to School Activity Sheet