Monthly Archives: June 2014

Children Do Not Come With Instruction Manuals

00B0B_dGlSBFfHl9M_600x450Hi this is Terri Borman child care provider and author of children’s book, “Shapes Go to School.”  It’s the first day of school for the shape children and the teacher, Miss Heart, has asked the students to get up and introduce themselves.  One by one the shape children get up and tell each other their names, their color, and how many sides they have.  It’s a beautifully illustrated book that the children love and they learn all about shapes and colors. To purchase your copy of “Shapes Go to School” click on the picture of the book.

IMG_215388605791630(1)My newest nephew, Samuel, was born this past week.  His birth made me think about how fast my own children are growing up.  Children don’t come with an instruction manual, so we as parents need to make sure we give our children our unconditional love and support,  instill in them our values and beliefs, and show them where we made wrong turns in life so they don’t make the same ones.  We can also take advice and learn from other parents, doctors, teachers and child care providers.  Here are ten child raising tips for you to ponder upon:

1.)  Raise a Godly child.  Teach your children about your bible and beliefs.  Find a good church and become an active member.

2.) Raise a healthy child.  Make healthy eating choices and eat together as a family.  Exercise as a family by taking bike rides or walks to the park.   Grow a small garden and encourage your children to eat the fruits of their labor.

3.)  Raise a confident child.  Give your children praises for a job well done, and even if the job wasn’t done correctly, find something to give praise.

4.) Raise a bilingual child.  Currently English is the spoken language of the United States, however, Spanish is not far behind.  It is much easier to learn a second language as a child and when it comes to your child’s language development, it is important to emphasize both languages.  New learners need to be exposed to their second language at least 30% of the time.  Look into enrolling your child into supplementary classes or a bilingual after school program to help maintain that minimum 30%.

5.)  Raise a globally aware child.  Expose your children to different cultures through other culture’s foods, drama, art, stories, folklore, and music.   These experiences will build curiosity for more cultural experiences.

6.)  Raise a cooperative child.  Enlist your child’s help with projects, give praise for their effort, and appreciate their help.

7.) Raise a book lover.  Set a time, around bed time, for reading with your child every day for about half an hour.   Not only will your child develop a love for words, but your child will have a better chance for academic success.

8.) Raise a talented child.   You don’t have to sign your child up for ten different activities each week, but you should find at least one or two activities that your child loves to do and work them into your child’s routine. The activities can be anything from soccer to music class as long as your child shows a talent or a love for it.

9.) Raise a child to have outstanding character.   Parents should help children promote good moral conduct through self-discipline, outstanding work habits, considerate behavior to others, and community service.  If your child is too young to understand all of these things, just teach him/her to be kind toward others.

10.) Raise a child that can communicate.  Listen to your children!  It’s easy to tune them out and If you never listen to your children, they won’t feel you care so why bother.  Encouraging your children to talk and express themselves early on will help them communicate successfully in the future.

Uh-Oh Facebook’s Latest Version Pro’s or Con’s You Decide

Hi this is Terri Borman child care provider and author of children’s book  00B0B_dGlSBFfHl9M_600x450“Shapes Go to School” is beautifully illustrated and teaches children about shapes and colors.  To order your copy, click on the book and it will take you to!  I love writing about things related to children and this week I am writing about the new Facebook feature that is currently under testing.  If the new feature rolls out, it could affect privacy of its users young and old.

facebook privacy 2 The latest version of Facebook for iOS and Android will automatically be able to recognize the song you’re listening to or the television show you’re watching and then automatically add it to your status. This feature is called audio recognition and it turns on your microphone and starts listening as soon as you start typing a new status. There is no need to type “Listening To” or “Watching” in the status creating screen. When there is a match, a small smiley face badge pops up over Facebook’s feelings button. You can opt in to this feature for the first time by tapping a new button inside the status window.  There is no opt-out once you opt-in.

This latest feature update makes total sense for those Facebook users who love to post what they are listening to or watching. This feature will automatically post links to TV shows or movie pages and appear in statuses which used to be just plain text. Also, previews from Spotify, Rdio, and Deezer will appear when a song is recognized. Right now it can only recognize around 150 US television shows and several million songs, far behind Shazam, but Shazam employs hundreds of people to do just this.

This new feature will most likely create substantial revenue for the company, but it requires you to sacrifice your privacy by letting Facebook eavesdrop on you every time you post a status. Facebook claims it will not listen to your conversations and that you have to turn the feature on. The app says, “We can’t identify background noise and conversation,” and, “sounds are only used to find a match and are never stored.”

Sam Biddle, in an article published in Valleywag, however, was not convinced. He spoke to a Facebook representative on the question of what happens to the recording and considers their data-storage policies inscrutable.  The Facebook representative told Mr. Biddle, “if the feature finds a match and you do not post [a new status update], we only save that the content was matched in an anonymized and aggregated form.”  They did not elaborate as to how your sound recordings are anonymized and aggregated.  Mr. Biddle asked for clarification and he used this example. “Say your phone starts recording the TV show you’re watching, and you change your mind because you don’t want your friends to see you’re watching USA reruns at noon.”  He was told that even then, the recording is retained, but in a “form that isn’t associated with you.”  Per Mr. Biddle, “that’s a lot of audio data to be just processed through Facebook with no clear limits and a policy that just boils down to ‘trust us.’  And there hasn’t been an accompanying update to their privacy policies to match the new feature.”

NSA  Well we don’t need to be concerned about Big Brother peeking in on our Facebook audio logs or do we?  The NSA can record telephone conversations for an entire country for 30 days at a time!

facebook privacy  Facebook knows where you live, where you work, all your contact information, all your friends, what your political views are, and even who you are with. Now with this latest version they will learn even more about you!

facebook dinosaur  I’m sure they will be delivering a “privacy update” by the little blue dinosaur shortly.

IMAG0675  There is a petition against this new feature which has almost 600,000 signatures.  So do your due diligence and if you are against this latest feature, speak up.

For more information you can watch news channel,, broadcast about this latest version of Facebook dated June 4, 2014.



If Vaccines Don’t Cause Autism, Then What Does? Part II

00B0B_dGlSBFfHl9M_600x450  Hi this is Terri Borman child care provider and author of “Shapes Go to School.”  This week’s blog is a continuation of “If Vaccines Don’t Cause Autism, Then What Does?”  Last week we looked at vaccines as a cause of autism, but with so many studies that have been done on vaccines I feel confident that they are not the cause of autism.  We just cannot ignore the fact that the number of children being diagnosed with autism started to rise in the 1980’s and continues to rise now.

Studies have shown that taking illegal drugs or drinking alcohol during pregnancy has serious negative effects on the infant’s brain development.  So what about the pain relievers we can buy over-the-counter that we think are safe to take? 

acetaminophen  Well it turns out that taking the over-the-counter pain reliever, paracetamol, commonly known as acetaminophen or Tylenol in the U.S., during pregnancy may also cause problems to the infant’s brain development.  An infant’s brain isn’t fully developed at birth so giving an infant paracetamol for teething or vaccines could have risks too.

Since 1995, paracetamol is widely used during circumcision.   This could explain why more males than females are affected by autism.

In 2008, a parent survey based study presented evidence that paracetamol given after a MMR vaccine may be associated with development of autism. 

In 2013, a prospective cohort study showed that children who had been exposed to paracetamol for more than 28 days of pregnancy had gross motor skill issues, poor communication skills, and more behavior problems compared with unexposed siblings.

9781481758161_COVER_V3.indd  It’s the very first day of Kindergarten for the shape children.  The teacher, Miss Heart, has asked each student to introduce themselves.  One by one each shape stands up and talks about themselves.  “Shapes Go to School” is a beautifully illustrated children’s book that teaches shapes and colors.  Order your copy of “Shapes Go to School” today!  Just click on the picture of the book!